Today (Tuesday), I told my best friend I was diagnosed with an eating disorder last January and I write a blog.
She knew about the blog (she thought it was library related and not fit blog related). She told me that she thought all the people she didn’t know in my circles on Google+ were library/work people. Heh, I told her no, that they were my blog friends but we don’t talk about libraries. Well ok, sometimes we talk about libraries. lol
It wasn’t as scary telling her as I thought it was going to be. I’m amazed when I realized I fully trust my best friend (more than my family) not to freak out when I tell her something about myself that can be seen as negative.
Seriously, if I could pick and choose who I hung out at holidays, my best friend would be on the top of that list.
I’m pretty sure she would let me watch the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day parade and not make fun of me. I’m going to text her right now and ask.
Do you live your life in the open, or do you hide certain parts of yourself? Do you like watching the Thanksgiving Day parade, or do you think I’m a colossal nerd?
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August 3, 2011 at 4:00 PM
MicheleMichele
It kind of fascinates me that even your best friend didn’t know about your blog. Did it feel like you were hiding something? I’m glad it was easier to tell her than anticipated.
August 4, 2011 at 7:20 PM
Kate @ Walking in the Rain
It felt really weird. Like I should have been able to just tell her, and know that it was going to be ok. After awhile I couldn’t figure out how to tell her. I felt like I should tell her in person (not in an e-mail or tweet), and just never brought it up.
I think healthy adult female relationships weren’t modeled correctly when I was growing up, and so I’m still learning that good friendships are healthy and nurturing.
August 3, 2011 at 4:43 PM
KCLAnderson (Karen)
I think I live a lot of my life out in the open…but sometimes it’s hard…but at the same time I can’t imagine not doing it! It helps me. I applaud you for doing something scary (and I can relate
. And I’m glad you have a BFF.
I haven’t watched the Thanksgiving Day Parade in years!
August 4, 2011 at 7:22 PM
Kate @ Walking in the Rain
I’m just starting to live my life out in the open. It is scary, but also very empowering at the same time!
Last year I watched the football game instead–very boring because you could tell who was going to win pretty quickly.
August 3, 2011 at 5:22 PM
eatingasapathtoyoga
What a big step, Kate! Wow! It’s funny how some of my super close friends don’t know that I have deep-rooted anxiety/eating issues and some of my more occasional friends know everything. I think it’s all about feeling safe with people about what level you want to share. If I can tell another person may struggle with a similar problem, I share. It’s an interesting co·nun·drum!!!
August 4, 2011 at 7:24 PM
Kate @ Walking in the Rain
I find it funny that I can write on the blog pouring my heart out (pretty much in public) to almost strangers, but I can’t spill the beans to my best friend. I think its because everyone here knows what I’m going through and can relate, where I’m scared what my friends would think if they don’t have the same “issues” as me.
But I’m very glad of all the new blog friends I’m making!
August 3, 2011 at 8:56 PM
Jenn
To answer your question, I would have to say that most of the time, I live in a closet and most people don’t know my deep issues.
Most people don’t know that I think I want to get a divorce, even though my husband is a wonderful person.
None of my friends know that I write a blog…. even though I haven’t written as much as I could. As I have said before, I fear that I will change what I write if they log on.
Good job at telling your friend what you think and feel. Did she laugh at you when you told her you wanted to watch the parade?
August 4, 2011 at 7:27 PM
Kate @ Walking in the Rain
I’m glad I’m not the only one! I’m not really afraid of what my friends will think, but I’m very scared about what my mom would say if she found out I wrote a blog. She already comments all the time on my facebook page, I’m afraid she’ll start telling me to pull things off my blog or comment on my spelling/grammar.
August 3, 2011 at 10:42 PM
Teddi
Regardless of whether you should or should not have told your best friend sooner, I think it’s important simply to concentrate on the great blessing that you have a friend in your life who you trust enough to be open with. To some degree we are all opaque spheres and no one can know us “completely”. However, we decide quite a bit who will and will not know us. Choosing to let some people in is always a healthy step.
August 4, 2011 at 7:28 PM
Kate @ Walking in the Rain
Yes Teddi! I’ve spent the last year feeling very blessed about having her in my life, and knowing that I can call/text/e-mail her whenever I need a pick me up!